What it is like being an Ambivert?
It’s not easy to be in a grey area. Although, you have the best of both worlds i.e. introversion and extroversion, there’s always some sort of conflict being an ambivert. You are literally in two minds. While one side of you wants to party with friends, the other side feels like relaxing at home, unwinding and reading a favourite novel.
I have experienced this conundrum many times where the definition of unwinding is dynamic. It takes a balancing act when it comes to which side to lean towards when you are in a particular setting. For instance, whether to be a talker or a listener. I personally enjoying hanging out with people and listen to them. Not because I’m shy, but because I prefer being quiet and like listening to what they have to say. It helps you understand the other person in a better manner. However, if I find someone who is quiet, I really don’t mind being a chatterbox.
That one thing which I really like doing is following and advocating my interests. So I can go on for hours talking about my favourite books and even current affairs for that matter. I’m unstoppable if a topic of my interest crops up during a conversation.
Sometimes, socializing or being around a lot of people becomes exhausting for me. It makes you feel claustrophobic. That’s one of the reasons why I don’t like shopping for myself. Visiting a mall, being around people and also lot of clothes with too many colours becomes disorienting. But then, I don’t like shopping online as well. So I kinda wear blinkers (like a horse), go with my to-do list and shop as fast as possible (unless I am in a super market surrounded by my favourite food items).
I can relate to being both introverted and extroverted. Because, I am perceived differently by different people. I act based on my mood and my comfort level with the people around. Basically, having a selective demeanour.
Honestly, even while writing this article I was confused as to what exactly I am. Well, that’s another sign of being an ambivert. Irrespective of how much you try to balance out you find it difficult to categorize yourself. At the end of the day what really matters is you comfort and not how others perceive you to be. So be yourself and do whatever you feel comfortable at that point in time. This attitude helped me be natural and adapt to whichever situation I was in.
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